1. He has to know you KNOW! But ladies, calmy is key. Don't just blow it all out in the club when your drunk (you will look foolish). Do it in a quiet place eg, home where he can't avoid the confrontation.
2. You have to be stern when you express your feelings. PLEASE don't cry! He will immediately take advantage of that and feed you some B.S. Let him know your angry and disappointed.
3. Without HESITATION ask him if the affair is done? If you sense any hesitation. QUIT QUIT QUIT and tell him to exit whether its his crib or not!
4. There are two options here: You want him back so you decide how you plan to deal with the affair and ask if he has a side chick, jump-off, groupie, constant chips besides the other affair he had. Or... you don't want him back so you lecture him and throw a slap or two. (He is shocked at this point he won't hit back unless he is drunk or stoned)
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5. If you want a him back... Since cheaters is not available to those outside America we will do the normal stalking: facebook, twitter, phone calls, messages, work place, restaurants, clubs, smell his suits, check for lipstick stains, scan emails, and etc! This is all important because words are one thing, but ACTIONS must match-up!
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6. Set clear guidelines on how the relationship works from now on... And let him know if he breaks the terms he is OUT! (Stick to your word, don't make for him excuses)
7. Keep this storo hush hush.. Fine, tell a close pal but don't tell the whole world!
8. Do NOT blame yourself or make excuses for him AGAIN!
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